Wednesday 20 August 2014

Hezekiel

Lost in translation is what i found myself in, sometimes you see things that makes you wonder and it would take forever to be understood.

I met a young engineer in August 2014 beginning, we would work together on a project at the Moses Kotane Hospital, He was the resident engineer at the Hospital and i was contracted to conduct a service there.

Naturally resident hospital engineers are known to be out of touch, less enthusiastic , less passionate about their work not Hez, He would warmly welcome me and a female colleague Rose and got dirty with us immediately.

It took us two days to complete what would have taken us four days to accomplish, we were the customer and he the client, he had no obligations to help and we didn’t ask for help.

His interaction with his colleagues in the wards we went in to revealed that he enjoyed helping and his job immensely,  he engaged with the Drs and Nurses about what we had come to do and on their other related projects with excitement.

Then curiosity would get the better of me i asked him about himself, he came out smart. knowledgeable , curious and hyper.
He would tell me that he is a village boy who got an opportunity through the late deputy minister of health Dr Molefi Sefularo to study clinical engineering in Cuba.

He went on to say how challenging it was to be away for three and a half years without seeing his family, he said he even lost a brother and could not come home to pay his last respect, he said this with pain in his eyes.

I then said “oh yes i know the departed Dr Molefi Sefularo who died in a car accident” he then said “ it was no accident it was assassination” i chose not to ask further.

He went on to say how he completed his B-Tech at TUT this after he asked me where do i get the knowledge of the work we we doing and i answered TUT, he said out of the twenty students he had gone to Cuba with only four completed their B-Tech’s.

I watched and listened with interest as he narrated the Cuba experience, how he was teaching himself portuguese and how spanish was closely related to the latter. He learned spanish as a prerequisite to study in Cuba.

I would then later ask “ so you speak Spanish?” his response “ speak, read and write”.
he went on to say how he wanted to complete his M-tech, how prepared he was about completing it. 

Oh, his motivation to learning portuguese was that his late father was originally from Mozambique, i would later reveal that i also am shangaaan, he smiled and said he is in general a lover of languages and would go on to sprinkle a bit of Venda, Tsonga and Xhosa in his narrations.

I asked if he would not be interested to come work with us in Gauteng with the promise of a good offer, he totally turned it down for the proximity he is enjoying with his family when at Moses Kotane hospital. his words “ i have been away for far too long and missed my family, i ben missed my late brother’s funeral i am not leaving them anytime soon”

An avid smoker he would now and then disappear for a smoke break, and then come back rejuvenated, i suspected that he smoked marijuana as well.
Hez was super smart, super humble, super human being, the two days i spent with him were memorable.

He then as an after thought would tell me how the cuban culture was closely similar to the coloured race in South Africa.


What troubled me was that i met him on Tuesday and would work with him again on Thursday, i found him in the same clothing, and i could smell marijuana on his clothes or something that smelled like that.

As we completed our assignment we would promise to keep contact and he promised me cuban music and said it was lekker!

I then said see you soon as i had some paper work outstanding, i got back to Gauteng and naturally got swallowed by my work and kept postponing going back. i raved to my colleagues and my wife back in Gauteng about a young man i had met and that he would be a valuable member to our organisation


Two weeks later i would receive a call from the hospital querying the outstanding paper work, i then said i had partly submitted to Hez, the lady who called took a very long sigh and said Hez has left, i though to myself he was way good to stay there, thought he was probably with a multinational company.

She then said we buried him last saturday, i could not believe it. she went on to say he hung himself.

His is a tribute to Hez, the guy i knew for two days who after two weeks departed.

You showed so much promise, i hope heaven has welcomed you warmly as you welcomed me into your hospital and life in an instance. I salute you fallen soldier!!!

Tuesday 24 June 2014

Perfection

Tsebo, it was confirmed today by Dr Roodt that you are a girl, seeing you in your mother's womb was awesome.

With your brother it was not difficult for Dr Roodt to see the sex, with you it took forever, lol.

You crossed your legs and wasn't willing to show, for that I am proud of you, Daddy 'a little girl showed that she is classy, respectful and I love that.

Your mom is very elated at the prospects of having you, she was being from ear to ear.

I must tell you that I have separation anxiety issues, the thought of you getting married and leaving us for another family in the future haunts me.

I love you, I promise to love you forever, date you, hug and kiss you enough.

I can already see you and Mot, he is a year and 7months older than you.
He has no clue you are about to dethrone him as the only child.

Daddy will dress up for his princess' dates with the Doctor until you set foot in his palace.

You, you , you and you princess are my little Nono.
Mot will be thrilled to have you around, he too will kiss you enough.

I will teach you how to pray, I will pray with you, I will pray over you.

You the knowledgeable one, the blessed one, 

What a day!!

Seeing you again on the 23rd July 2014.
Mnxcwaaaa!!

Friday 15 November 2013

Marrying my wife


 

Prior to meeting my wife I was just an easy going guy who went about his day with less care and planning.

I planned my weekends around mall prowling, church and watching sport on TV, more specifically soccer and cricket. Weekdays were planned around my job with little interaction with those who matter the most, family.

My less caring attitude extended into my finances and social life at some stage I didn’t even know how much I earned, I was just happy I could afford to pay for the things I needed.

Then one fateful Saturday while mall prowling I met a beautiful woman who after a year and a half I married. Six month of dating provided me with a preview of how life could be with Mantoa in my corner. I was gradually turning in to a man I wished I was, I started going to the gym to keep a healthy and fit body, got involved at church even made it into the youth leadership team, kept my finances intact, re-evaluated my friendships kept the ones I benefited from and the ones I contributed positively in, I also reconnected with family.

On the 29/04/2012 we walked down the aisle and became Mr and Mrs Rathelele, we braced ourselves for a good and long journey of life together. The task of being head of the family fell on my shoulders; I was now responsible for the direction of both our lives, the role required of me to be organized, consultative, have a vision, goals, execution strategies and monitoring methods in place.

Marrying my wife meant that I had to keep improving myself, my career for the benefit of both of us, it meant I had to learn to give tough love, receive it as well. It meant that I represented a collective at all time and could not afford to misrepresent them for personal gratification. It meant I opened myself to be corrected, advised and disciplined for the benefit of a collective.

Marrying my wife meant I was now part of her family and that I had added into our family, it meant I was now part of a new big family and that I had to be intentional with relationships to build this new family we are now part of. I have learned to be of influence even in unfamiliar territories.

Overall I have learned that we do not merely exist for ourselves that we exist for a much bigger purpose. I honestly believe that for the questions we have someone elsewhere has the answers, that life is relational and intentional.

We are now blessed with a son of our own and now i am benefiting from having good relations.

Tuesday 17 September 2013

Mot the champ

I love my wife and adore my son.
I literally catch myself gazing at you with disbelief, I thinking I am dreaming.
My son is handsome, energetic, intelligent and easy.

I have in the past hallucinated about what I will do when you get here, I am so amped to be the coolest dad around, you are six months now, I insist on not using baby talk with you, I insist on communicating in Tsonga,Pedi and English.

You are six months yet display the attributes of one day becoming a great man, you have started noticing us ' mom and dad' , recognizing our voices too.

Depending on who you ask between me and your moms, you have started saying 'papa'.
Mom is in Limpopo to finalize her Msc degree, she left today(Thursday) and will be back on Sunday, it is just the two of us these four days, Tomorrow (Friday) I am taking you along to my office.

It's all love from me son

Sunday 18 August 2013

Randomly

Some days I am a genius and somedays I am a google dad.
Since the arrival of Motheo I find that I always challenge myself to think more, love more,care more and just to do more of everything
When Jesus left us to be with his beloved father and our dearest dad he said even greater things we will do, he meant greater things than he did.
 most of the time we are so insecure that we cannot even equate/liken ourselves with him, we just call ourselves Christians without the full understanding of what it means.
I wake up everyday and say even greater things we will do.
somedays I think maybe I am arrogant to think that way but that is the mental state Jesus wanted us to posses, to know that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.
We must believe that we are great,smart,difference makers and all things wonderful.
We must believe that we are blessed beyond curse
We must believe we are the answer to community's problems
For Every battle we fight we must remember we are fighting from a position of victory.

Thursday 14 March 2013

A day to go


Today it's the eve of your birth, I am upgrading to Dad, my wife upgrading to Mom, our moms to grannies, I love you.

I have nothing but love , respect and appreciation to my wife for carrying you the whole nine months.
I doubt I will sleep tonight, tomorrow(Friday and Saturday) I greatly doubt I will ever sleep the same ever again.

I can't comprehend the love that God has bestowed on me and your mom, we have over the years matured beyond our years and you will add to this maturity as well
I have in you a son and a mate.














Friday 8 March 2013

A week to go


The count down began some time back, now I am counting hours,
Approximately 144 hours to go.

Your maternal grandmother was here on the 6/03/13 and left on the 7/03/13 just for final touch ups, she just wanted to see that all was in order before the big day, your paternal grandmother can't stop calling, she is excited and cautious.

Your maternal gran is a midwife so she knows the ins and outs, your mother calls us virgin parents, so we do need an overseer here and there.


I had a chat with your mother she reckons we are your fans first, then your parents,
we hope when you land this would have changed, we should be parents first.
It is the excitement and the joy that you bring to us that makes the lines blurry.

Your mom says its the last Friday of our lives without you,
She says no more table for two, we are three.

Your mom is concerned about losing her name because from now on she will be referred to as MmaMotheo, I am cool with it son, nothing is cooler than being referred to by the champion kid's name.

Hey I am thrilled and can't comprehend what God has done for me,
I am beyond words thrilled,
Now and then I catch myself smiling at the clouds,
Son we are going to have so much fun

Just received a all from uncle Odwa Shenxane,
your mom sent him a message saying there was two and now three, so he got confused,
you are only arriving next week the 15/03/13

I love you.