It is a Wednesday night and i am sitting lazily on the couch, the very same spot i like sitting every night and just trying to take a breather from writing. Whether wifey is home or not this is my spot. It is every Wednesday night that i anticipate watching the SA PSL matches, tv remote clinging and all,yes-to manipulate channels we are watching tonight. -
Wifey is preoccupied with her school work and she is putting final touches on her Zoology thesis, smarty pants for a wife i have, smarty -skirt rather. So while I'm cruising with the tv remote control,i discover that its international week so no PSL games shown live tonight, what a bore. Well i enjoy watching soccer although at times i do not want to come clean for obvious reasons, like being judged by my model-c friends for not following rugby or even hockey?
Im busy channel hopping when out of the blue wifey asks me to tune to channel 130, understand the enormous amount of pressure i am under to say channel 130 so you know i am not watching from the welfare tv, no lol! As it turns out channel 130 is Simunye, SABC1, and Khumbulekhaya the 'drama' has just started. Oh, with so much pride, wifey sings along to the sound track, this woman of mine doesn't hesitate to bring me up to speed, as if i care but LOVE as you know pays attention. She is so accustomed to the show to an extend that she knows how the stories (adventures as I call them) will unfold. You know what frustrates me is that,even when she insist that we watch this lifeless thing, she cannot seem to bring herself to watch when they break into tears,which is my favourite part, really mara! What is Khumbu without a tear or two..come on let them cry us a river instead.
Let us talk about Khumbulekhaya shall we...... i begin, ''no life is as hard as that of a black woman''. Well, the poverty cycle is simple really, everyone is looking for either their parents or relatives who are somewhere out there in the same poverty boat, however with hope you cannot dispel that maybe, just maybe things are better. What if your mom isn't making contact because she is having it easy wherever she is
, what if. An unemployed 30 year old and father of two, weeping endlessly in search of his mother..."i want to find her and live with her..."....''I want to find her and know how it feels to have a mom'', moving right along sir.
The trend is very easy, women are very predictable, if your mother left you with your dad it means only one thing, she could not stand the poverty. Women will never leave a kid behind with a rich dad, never, not in this lifetime! They will take you and use you to extract money from your dad, simply put,she will pawn you. If you were left 30 years ago it is really a big shame, because it means your mother, or that woman who gave birth to you, thought your dad was so useless and hopelesss, to not even afford to take a chance on the R2.50 lottery bet. Like your dad you will possibly turn out a good for nothing,the maths,really?. I have been watching Khumbu for quite some time, it is always someone hopeful of breaking away from the poverty cycle, by searching for a lost relative hoping to find them swimming in a pool of success. As you would know,it always ends on a sad note . When you find the lost member of the family, they deepen your poverty status. Poverty is just like that in its nature,it sucks you in and sucks you good,so good that the ripple effect is inevitable. "Re tla sokola le wena" is sung week in and week out. If i tracked down a long lost relative and found them poor i would disown them right there and then, no jokes! I'll be like i just wanted to know 'lf you were still alive', PEACE, i am sure you have heard the latter on Khumbu, lol, its poverty!!!
I think i know how it is like to grow without the other parent, infact i know how it is how to grow without both parents, but there comes a time in a MAN's life where he has to spear-head his mission, pursue his purpose and stand on his own. Yes we acknowledge the absence and yes maybe your life could have been better but guess now that we are here, we will make the best of ''HERE''.
